dress - modcloth
sweater - f21
hair bow - f21
sunglasses - fred flare
shoes - my grandmom
So, today is Valentine's Day. I thought it would be a good day to confess a deep, dark embarrassing secret that I've kept hidden from all but a handful of online friends. I am perpetually single. I'm 24 years old and I've never been on a single date in my entire life. It's not that I'm super picky or anything. It just never happened.
In high school none of the guys I was interested in asked me out, so I went through high school dateless. Then right out of high school I started taking online college classes, so there was no real interaction with other humans. Choosing a career as an artist led me to work from home, so no interaction there either. Honestly I don't really even want to meet anyone while I live in my hometown because I'm afraid that I'll get tied down here, and I don't want to live here for another month let alone an entire lifetime. I'm finally moving in the fall, hopefully taking on-campus classes and getting a real live job. I feel like my life is finally going to begin, but at the same time I feel incredibly naive. I'm in my mid-twenties and I am a complete romantic novice. I'm terrified that I'll meet someone wonderful, and they'll be turned off by my inexperience. I don't even know if that's something you spill on a first date... How do you tell someone in their 20's or 30's that your first date with them is actually your first date EVER! It has such a negative connotation, like people will either think my parents kept me incredibly sheltered (which they didn't) or that I have some kind of mental problem (which I don't). It's hard to explain that it's just a series of strange circumstances, a deep-seated fear of being stuck in New Jersey (okay, my hatred for my home state might be a little less than normal) and a poor teenage dating batting average that got me here.
I'll be the first to admit, though, that deep down I do believe I'll find someone someday who is understanding and patient, and who thinks my inexperience is endearing, not off-putting. It might take a while to find them, but I think they're out there. I'm not really a romantic but I do believe that somewhere there's a someone for everyone, and somewhere there's a someone for me :)
More buttons 
20 comments:
Aw I wish you all the love in the world! There's nothing wrong with not being a serial dater (: there are men out there that will find it precious and worth treasuring! Ps: that pink dress you're wearing is ridiculously pretty...and you wear it so well! Happy valentines, love! Xoxo
Aww...you're a darling. I'm sure that when you meet the right guy, he won't be put off by your inexperience, but will find it charmingly old-fashioned.
You hate New Jersey as much as Ted of 'How I Met Your Mother'. Observe:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OimcWNL73AM
And also this one:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8-q2_zp3ah4&feature=related
Sorry - it's poor quality, but you get the idea...
There's nothing embarrassing about it! I think it's nice that you're waiting for someone really special. :D
Your dress is beautiful! I love the colors and material; it looks perfect for Valentine's day. :D
I agree with your views. There IS someone for everyone. Don't worry deary! You're young and you have PLENTY of time! You'll find someone and he'll be perfect! Me knows it! ;-P
You aren't alone Kate. I'm so inexperienced in dating and such. I had my very first date last year, so speaking of relationships and dating, I'm no expert. :) By the way, I adore your dress!!! It's so frilly and pretty.
I love the dress and the shoes. The color is so pretty. Can you give us a photo tutorial on how you do your hair? It's so cool.
Awww! You'll find someone! And they will be so completely lucky! :-D
(You look absolutely gorgeous by the way.)
I switched to Disqus commenting the day I wrote this post, so half of the comments were on Disqus and half on blogger. When I just switched to Intense Debate, I lost the Disqus ones from this post. So I went in my email, and found the comment notifications to repost them in the comments here. I start each comment with the name of the person who left it.
Thank you so much for all of your comments! This was a hard post to write, and everyone really made me feel hopeful and not as loser-like as I did when I wrote it! :)
lovie, you WILL meet someone wonderful...enough to know better than to run the other way when the dating topic comes up. i do think it's better to maybz start talking about those kinds of things after the 2nd or really the 3rd date. even if you had a HUGE history of loves, a little mystery is always good and not to lay all your cards out on the table right away.
it's really positive to hear your thoughts about this and you're such a lovely girl, it'll happen...best believe (like you are).
the future looks bright lades, i think this new life course will swing you into wondrous ways. um and heck ya! that dress is rockin' miss thang! love it totala. xo
This outfit is so cotton candy perfect! I love the color of the shoes and how well they go with the dress.
BTW--if a guy can't handle your supposed inexperience, then he isn't worth your time. I know a lot of people who got a late start on romance, and they all ended up with great mates. A great guy will love you for who you are!
those are the same thoughts i had before. it really does all work out. i don't think it's naive, i think it's romantic. i was the first girl scott kissed and his first girlfriend he even thought of dating. now, i don't have to live up to crazy ex girlfriend expectations.
we both work from home, and can be anti-social together. if someone would have told me this years ago, i would have seriously LOL'd. you will find someone that will love you for you.
Me too! Everything about this is like, exactly how I feel, and exactly my life story. Sure I had crushes, but most of them were ridiculous or I knew it would never work because I didn't want to be stuck here! But I too believe that there is someone out. And he'll be worth the wait. In the meantime we'll just wear cute dresses and look fab! Your dress is beautiful by the way!!
First of all - this dress suits you so well, it's astonishing. It truly was MADE for you!
Second - I am now 22 (only 2 years younger than you, Grannie!) and have also never been on a date. Never even been asked, either. Honestly, I'm grateful for not having a long string of ex-boyfriends because I have absolutely nothing to regret or to admit to my future husband. It's very freeing. :)
Our princes are out there Kate - I know it. I like to think that Dirk Bogarde and Douglas Fairbanks Jr are coaching them somewhere... ;D
omg..what a fabulous dress! it looks amazing on you!!
there is definitely someone for everyone!!!
happy valentine's day!!
Gorgeous dress! And there is most definitely a someone for everyone :)
I think you look lovely!! And I totally agree with you, I definitely think there is a someone for everyone. :) Don't worry, someone wonderful will come along!
Kathy - Thank you! :) I did a video tutorial here - http://scathingly-brilliant.blogspot.com/2011/01/my-super-lazy-sort-of-beehive-hair.html
Anna - Oh my gosh, that is beyond hilarious!!!
I was my fiancé's first-ever date...and kiss, and everything. It was a little bit funny, and he was embarrassed, but no one that you'd actually WANT to date would dream of making you feel bad about it! <3
Hey. I hope you don't think I'm a stalker because I'm reading some of your old posts. And if you do, don't worry, I'm on a different continent :)
Anyway. I never had a boyfriend in school or university. It also just never happened for me. But then I met a great guy that liked me and I almost made a big mistake because I had a crush on a different guy that wasn't interested in me. So I imagined that I was in a movie and realised I should go for the really nice guy that likes me and not make the mistake they always do in movies.
He was my first boyfriend, but we've been together for 3 years now and I couldn't have imagined someone more perfect for me. So don't worry about being inexperienced, because it just happens one day and I think all relationships are a little awkward at first. I'm really bad with people, but now we are closer than family and so happy.
Post a Comment